Boy, do I have a gift for you!  Do you need a “pick-me-up” this holiday season?

If so, here you go!

I asked my Facebook friends to share the best Christmas gift they ever received. I suggested that “Jesus” and “Salvation” are givens. 🙂

Keely Tidwell Evans–My husband home for christmas then he was in bootcamp and the year he was supposed to deploy. That time we had together on christmas exodus was so cherished because it was short, and the other time because he was supposed to be gone and got to be home.

Teresa Lewis–The birth of my youngest son Shane.. nick named my “Christmas Puddin’

Andy Woods–Three spiral notebooks. My Dad tells the best stories and he’s not getting any younger. A few years ago I was bugging him about writing them down. On Christmas I unwrapped my present to find three notebooks full of stories. Family who didn’t know what was going on couldn’t understand why I was so excited over three 99 cent notebooks.

Jim Ray– My Dad recorded about six cassettes of stories from his life that Donna spent months transcribing and now typing up to print books for all of my brothers and sisters to receive this Christmas.

Emmalie Spackman Armstrong–My husband once bought me a vase before we were married. I thought it was a terrible gift at the time but 18 years later he still buys me flowers to put in it. It has become my favorite gift.

Bobbie Jo Gorman Pittman–My homemade/ handmade cabbage patch doll. My grandparents couldn’t afford one (way back when they first came out and were like $100)so Grandma made one right down to her crcrocheted clothes!!! My Grandma is gone now and my daughter, Macie never got meet her but she gets to play with that doll.

Jeffrey T. Hare–My wife!

Piney Grove Christian Church–Two seater go cart

Andres Augustine Benavides–A plane ticket to Colorado for the holidays!

Christine Cavazos Gonzales–My second grade son’s $ .99 light bulb earrings that turned my ears green! Gaudy but I was so touched he bought them for mom.

Glen Fritzler–Best Christmas ever hands down, was the last Christmas both my mom and dad were still alive.

Karah Long–My grandma made us a cook book of family recipes

RaVae Erickson–My engagement ring. I got my hubby 5 months later!

Ben Siemon–techno super bowl

Donny Hughes–Tangible Object – Stretch Arm Strong – my sisters tore him apart frown emoticon The best gift has been memories and precious time with family (laughs, heartfelt thank you tears, jokes, catching up and of course traditional Christmas Drama) These are fun, thank you for letting us get involved.

Ivy Moya–My camera. I love capturing special and everyday moments.

Cassie Dawn Ruhl–Life!

Fred S. Turner–Atari 2600 when I was 12- complete with Asteroids, Space Invaders, Etc.. Knew there was no way my parents could afford it. Later learned they attended an all day time share sale presentation where it was the “prize” for showing up. Knowing how my parents disliked being sold anything, it made me appreciate them investing all that time and enduring the pressured sales pitch.

Angela Dowling Brogan–A saddle because I knew there must be a horse out back!!!!!!

Jude Champagne–Dog tags and letter explaining their significance from my marine brother while he was on leave.

Rose Marriott Larimer–My daughter got everyone a nerf gun and instructed us all to open them at the same time. The room spontaneously erupted into a good half hour of shooting each other all over the house. Lots of noisy laughter and silly frivolity. Not a real gift perhaps, but a great Christmas memory enjoyed by all ages of family members.
Donna Hays–My husband has given me the best gifts B/C he always gives me something I didn’t ask for but, apparently, needed. Our second Christmas together, he gave me a wool comforter and mattress pad to keep me warm during the Winter. That was one of the most thoughtful gifts I’ve ever gotten.

Laura Pattee–Our firstborn child.

Jim Ray–My first guitar was a Christmas gift. I only asked for it because my older brother (and biggest rival) asked for a ukulele. I had no idea at the time how the gift of music would enhance the rest of my life.

Jonathan Dana Blayney–My daughter birth 2010, first date with my wife 2007, guitar 1985

Kimberly Lee–A blue bike and a blue coat when I was about 10 that I heard Santa bring into the house.

Anisha Gutierrez–A few years ago, about a week before Christmas, we noticed that a couple of our items had gone missing. It turned out that the kids had snatched a couple of our things, wraped them and put them under the Christmas tree. I had never been so excited to see my hairbrush and I think Mikel got his belt returned to Him smile emoticon The kids told us they knew that we would love the gifts they got us. We laughed so hard!

Kitty Johnson–A 1989 Mustang XL that my grandparents got for me. It was hidden next door (Kirsten’s house) & everyone knew about it but me! My Papa was so proud to give that to me & I was blown away. I still remember him taking me by the arm to lead me next door & I was clueless. Meanwhile half the neighborhood is creeping out of their house to see my reaction. It was white with a humongous red bow on top. (Thanks for letting me relive that too. Got me teary.)

Amy McBride Chirichigno–My Nook! #bookworm

Katie Babbino–My mom gave me $1000 for a computer, all in $1 bills, rigged in a cookie tin to burst open and spray the money everywhere when it was opened. My last Christmas with her 🙂

Jennifer Barnett Seminara–A pair of diamond earrings. My husband Joe had given me a pair when my daughter Paulina was born. Unfortunately someone stole them and I was heart broken. My husband replaced them on Christmas with an upgraded pair .. The best part was that he had put them in an ornament that had been hanging in the tree all season. He had me hunt the tree for them. I had no idea he was replacing them and he made it a fun process .

Jeffery McDowell–My wife Liz. I proposed to her on Christmas 15 and she said yes! God took a hurt rebellious meth head like me and restored me in Him. He gave me a beautiful gift! Restoration in Him after straying for many many years! 🙂

Laura Jones Sampson–Grandma jones saved back jewelry and trinkets that had belonged to her mom and gave them to us over the next couple years after she died so we would remember her at Christmas. 💕

Leah McManus–My parents, aunts and uncles and grandparents pooled together and bought my violin when I was 14 or 15 years old. My mother insisted it would be the only gift I got for Christmas that year because it was expensive by our standards. I still use it every week to teach my violin students.

Anissa Keaton Snow–on Christmas morning when I really needed to feel/see God working in my life.

Audra Kingsley Blythe–After being married at 18 and 21, I cherished my wedding ring (that he picked all on his own) for 21 years. We’d talked about new rings for a few years, but I’m not a big jewelry person and it just wasn’t that important. Christmas of 2013, with our kids (18 and 20) present he was being a bit weird and really watching which present I opened. I grabbed a 8×8 box and as I opened it he got down on one knee…and began to sob. He eventually told me how much he loved me and handed me the little box inside as he appoligize for not being able to talk. My best Christmas present ever was his willingness to tell me, with our family present, how much I meant to him. The ring was just an extra…though I wear it happily, knowing how much thought he put into it 21 years later!

Aaron Gossage–My dad got me a flight in a T-6 Texan, a WW2 era aircraft.

Lizzie Johnstone–My keyboard I got last year

Connie Slaymaker–When my dad came down from Canada.
Hadn’t seen him in 6yrs. He worked the pipeline so rarely could get away. He spent a whole week with me in California.
I’ll never forget it.

PeteNheather Ramsey–My mom made life size rag dolls for me and my sister. They were made from some of our old clothes and looked like us. She must have put so much time into it. I am sure I didn’t appreciate it then. She worked full time, but gave so much of herself and time late into the night to make us happy. Now I know just how difficult that is to do

Amy Woodrum–An engagement ring. Funny story about that, The next year my husband got me the “Indiana Jones” movie set and he thought I didn’t like it b/c my reaction was nothing like the year before. I tried to explain that when you start with a wedding ring as a present it’s all kinda downhill from there LOL

Cheryl Grom–Record player

Ramona Griffin Eldridge–A cassette Walkman with an Amy Grant Christmas cassette inside it.

Melissa Kelly Colgate–My first Christmas together with George at my brother’s house.

Josey Sampson Corbett–It’s so relative! Not many can relate to this I suppose… When I was in Bulgaria, I got an awesome care package one Christmas. My two favorite items were toilet paper and crunchy peanut butter. I hid them both from guests of all nationalities. 🙂

Denise Casseday Finning–Gavin! He was born at 11:17 on Christmas morning 16 years ago! There is more to the story though… My grandpa, who was so excited to have a great grandson passed away on Dec. 3 that year.

Aaron Jennifer Warnick–My engagement ring or the spa gift card.

Rene’ Corbett–A teddy bear from my grandmother that has been made from a quilt top made by my great grandmother.

Beverly Jackson–Proposal from my husband

Tammy Skogen–The movie Scrooge. wink emoticon

Brenda Frame–After my husband passed away right before Thanksgiving, my teenage kids bought me a Bose radio so I could listen to talk radio. They definitely couldn’t afford it.

Julie McGrath–A really beautiful ring…to a ten year old girl? Ooh lala!!

Marina Davidson–Christmas was my Christmas present. Before I got married my family did not celebrate Christmas. I went to friends houses sometimes at Christmas time, but never had a Christmas at home. So when I was finally able to celebrate and make memories and go to church, and open presents and have Christmas morning breakfast and Celebrate Jesus it was and still is the best gift! My 10th real Christmas!!! ♡

Kelly Jones–My favorite gifts were the ones my sister picked out from Sanrio Surprise (a store for just hello kitty merchandise). Every year dad would fund a trip for each of us to pick out stuff for other one. Then we would wrap each individual item, including each pencil, tiny accessory, or knick knack. They were my favorite!

Lisa Barham-Dopler–A “Big Wheel” when I was 5.

Marrianne Kay Davis–A cabbage patch doll…when I was 18!! AND my mom and my aunt sewed and crocheted a ton of cute clothes for her!! I still have her!!

Susan Bartsch Smit–2 things…
My own bicycle… my Dad had been at sea and I had learned to ride on my big brothers’ much too tall for me bikes. Dad didn’t know I’d been learning so when I was happily surprised with a bike for me under the tree, he took me out to show me how to ride. My Mom and I had a great time watching his face as he held the bike for me and I surprised him by taking off and riding. The second gift is anytime we’re able to be with family and friends to hang out and/or share a meal. It’s always so special!

Janet Morris–A Blizzard! Sue and I were stuck in her little apartment in Denver and all our presents and Christmas dinner was in Greeley! We had no electricity and only soup and crackers for Christmas dinner…but one of my best gifts. We sang Christmas carols by candlelight and talked ourselves hoarse! And the soup was “blessed” extensively!

Drew Bromm Risk–Lord of the Rings trilogy edition

Kyle Andrew Morrissey–White Power Ranger Gloves

Shannon Tetiva–My parents got me the baby doll I wanted! I know it was expensive for them as my dad was layed off. I still have that doll.

Susie Moreno–1973 Barbie Townhouse. We lived at Island Grove Apt., Mom, Dad, and 6 kids. We didn’t have a lot, in fact we had very little, but they always made sure we got a new outfit and at least one really good gift. So something like a Barbie Townhouse was AMAZING! I loved that thing. It was also the last gift they gave me before splitting up so that might have something to do with it holding such fond memories for me.

Pat Brunner–First and foremost would be God’s gift of his Son. But also my family’s love was, is and always will be my best Christmas gift over material things.

Ginny Mackey Graham–One of my most memorable Christmas gifts was a velvet long robe. It was even more special to know my dad picked it out. I think I was 12 years old.

Sheryl Wilson–I have to explain …My husband never just gives a gift because you want it, in his head he has to understand why and see value in it or you may not get it!! A couple years ago he got me a mic and stand as well as a book on carving, he stepped out of his comfort zone and gave me a gift I find joy in doing!! If you knew him you would understand how priceless that gift was too me!

Melody Willert–First and foremost, Jesus. The one gift I remember, and I’ve lived through 63 Christmases, was a gold bookmarker with an “M” on it from my cousin Penny. I was probably 8 or 9.

Julie Nelson–Positive pregnancy test/the gift of becoming a parent!

Terri Herrington–The only ring my husband has bought me….he couldn’t afford anything when we got married….so a couple years later he bought me a heart shaped ring with a diamond in the middle. I wear it everyday and think of him everyday for he is forever on my mind and in my heart.

Mark Wheeler–Baptized into Christ December 1988 and engaged a couple days later to my now wife of almost 27 years!

Dave Jones–Stretch Armstrong!

Sheryl Wilson–A few years back!! I had ask my husband if he would go to church with me for Christmas, je would not answer because he had not made up his mind, he surprised me and very last minute he came with me, best gift ever to be with your husband on such a day of blessings

John Jordan–December 26, 1992 I got Jennifer Jordan; December 27, 1994 I got Joshua Jordan

Sarah Badding Selby–Arianna telling me all she wants for Christmas this year is “a happy Christmas”

Kathy Cook–One year we were struggling financially and my sister BETH gave us a honey baked ham. I was so excited that I could put a holiday meal on the table. Will never forget that year.

Melissa Schultz Smith–One year when we were really struggling we had an anonymous card with $200 given to us at church. The only inscription was”here is your Christmas miracle”

Tara Woods–My parents divorced when I was young, but a few years back we decided to all have Christmas together. It was the only time it happened, but it was the best Christmas I’ve had thus far greatest gift I’ve received is being with ALL my family at once!

Annie Lathim Bellis–Our daughter, Hannah! Went through a lot to have her and almost lost her while having her on December 22, 1997!


Join the conversation! What is the best Christmas gift you’ve ever received?

©2015 Arron Chambers

Lord, I’m Thankful For…

November 26, 2015 — 1 Comment









Your Word.

Your Body.

My wife of 25 years, Rhonda

My kids, Ashton, Levi, Sylas, and Payton

My son-in-law, CJ Jenkins

My parents, Roger and Linda Chambers

My in-laws, John and Mary Smith

My siblings and their families

My brothers and sisters in-law and their kids

Journey Christian Church

My health

My friends

Calling us to Greeley



My team: Terry, Matt, Patrick, Chris, Darlene, Stephany, Isaiah, Brad, Gus, Tammy, Sandy, Timothy, Dan, Keri, Steve, Mark

My Elders: Mark, Neal, David, Dave, Mark, Jason, Ryan

My heritage

Florida Christian College

Abilene Christian University

Blythe Daniel

Don Pape

My Covenant Group: Alan Ahlgrim, Greg Marksberry, Rick Grover, Bryan Myers

Drs Ben and Sheri Lerner

Your Word

The Holy Spirit

Calvin Miller, Donald Miller, Steve Miller

Being able to preach for You

Being able to write about You

Being able to serve people in Your name

Sonny’s Bar-B-Q

Krispy Kreme Donuts

Bloomin’ Onions

Fellow Coaches at Frontier Academy: Brett Shanklin, Ashlynn Rhule, Bobby Lewis, Laura Hodgson, Dan Biscelgia, Heath Miller, Ben Harrison, Daniel Zender, Mike Danson

Frontier Cross Country Team

Southside Christian Church in Orlando


Service men and women.

Coal, Lucky, and Belle


The Blue Mug

Pop Secret Home-style Microwave Popcorn


Work Out West

Peyton Manning & The Broncos

University of Tennessee Football

FSU Football

Steve Jackson


Mark Taylor

Dr. Brad Keeney

Angel Flores

The 2016 NACC Planning Team



Pecan pie

Green bean casserole


Receiving our thanks

Loving us

Saving us.

For these things Lord, I’m especially grateful today.


What are you thankful for?

I have 2 blogs.

This one and one designed for marriage and family issues called, Extraordinary Marriages for Ordinary People

Well, yesterday on my other blog, I posted an article entitled, 3 Reasons Why Married Couples Should Have More Sex, and it is going viral. Just yesterday alone about 1,500 people read it!

I decided to link to it here, so you can read it. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below.

Also, I’ve been struck by something else. From my informal research, it appears about 70% of those who have “liked” or shared the article are women.

So, let me ask my women readers a question. This survey is for women only.

©2015 Arron Chambers



Cherished Wisdom

November 6, 2015 — Leave a comment


In Proverbs 19:8 we read:

The one who gets wisdom loves life;
the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.

Recently, I asked my friends on Facebook to share some bits of wisdom they’ve heard along the way. I was blown away and so encouraged by the number of responses I received and the sharing of such great wisdom. I received input from over 200 people from all over the world. Here are some of my favorites.

I hope you’ll cherish this wisdom as much as I do.

btw…I didn’t want to lose the viral nature of these posts, so I’ve only edited as needed. Also, a big “Thanks” to these people for allowing me to bless the world with their wisdom.

Words of Wisdom…

Emmalie Armstrong: My grandmother always said,”Great minds think alike. Sewer pipes run in the same channel.”

Brian Richard: In all criticism there is at least a nugget of truth.

Bud Gothmann: Shortly before I got married, my dad gave me this advice, “There will come a day when you have to choose to make your parents happy or your wife happy. When that day comes, make your wife happy”. Great advice from a great man.

Sheryl Wilson: My Dad always said if you take care of the things that matter they will take care of you, meaning if you need to so an oil change do it, it you have a broken window fix it, don,t whine about it, be an adult and do what you need to do,

Carmen Barber: My dad always said “A bargain isn’t a bargain if you don’t need it”

Olivia Myers: My Opa says: If it’s ‘too good to be true’, then it’s too good to be true!

Jason Bucky Walters: My dad always said “Keep the main thing, the main thing!” I’ve learned when I follow that, life seems to be a little easier!

Angie McPhee Barnett: My dad: “Deal with the cards you have been dealt”

Bud Gothmann: I’ve often said, you can’t always control the cards you’re dealt in life but you can choose how you play them.

Sheryl Wilson: Mom always said, if you lay down with dogs, you will get up with fleas…..

Stephanie Kowalski: My Dad used to tell me, “nothing worth having comes easy…”

Brandon Smith: If you fall on your face, at least you know you’re moving forward.

Marlo Holbert: My grandpa always says pretty is what pretty does!

Dwayne Toney: Always be someone that gives more than you take

Bruce Hoppe: If your intake doesn’t at least equal your output, your upkeep will be your downfall.

RaVae Erickson: My grandma says all the time, “The early bird gets the worm”

Sam Wirick-Velez: The second mouse gets the cheese.

Cash Hunter: My mother told my wife before we got married, told my cousins before they got married, told my sister in laws before they got married – “what’s yours in yours and what his is yours”.

Scot Longyear: “Choose your hard” – Stephanie Longyear. After loosing 100 pounds she says it was hard being heavy and it is hard to lose and maintain weight. Either way it is hard. Choose your hard.

Lance M Williams: If you do not quit, you cannot lose! Work is hard, but hard work is fun!

David Mehrle: We teach our kids “people before things”

Sam Wirick-Velez: “Happy wife, happy life.” Goes along with “You can be right or you can be happy.”

Allison Hill Pilliod: “If everyone threw their problems out in the street, you would run out and grab your own.” … My grandma.

Nancy Osborn: “To have a friend you must be a friend”

Jeff A. Rosenberry: “Live for today… with eternity in mind.”

Nancy Osborn: “You catch more bees with honey than with vinegar”

Shauna Raymer: If you’re on time you’re late.

Nancy Osborn: “Everyone you meet is facing some difficulty about which you know nothing”

Bobby Wallace: The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Dave Mason: You live life forward and understand it backwards.

Stephany Jenkins: My Grandma always said, “Don’t borrow trouble from tomorrow”

Diane Stortz: You can go anywhere if you just read the signs. (My dad talking about driving, but I think it applies to more than that.)

Keely Tidwell Evans: Look before you leap! Seems I still have trouble with that one

Christine Cavazos Gonzales: That boy has a lot of quit in him.

Chris Swanberg: My Grandaddy ( southern ) said… “Boy, if you’re gonna sell it, you’ve got to BELIEVE in it! You’ve got to KNOW it’s what is best for anyone!, Ya hear what I’m telling you, boy??”

Lou Encinias: My grandpa spoke Spanish. I don’t speak Spanish. So, I really don’t know what he said.

Aaron Fusselman: God’s love is not a reward for good behavior.

Mark Smith: Every tub must sit on its own bottom.

Brenda Free Nikielski: He would always say “grass doesn’t grow on busy streets” about being a man with very little hair.

Mike Kjergaard: “That which was not placed by logic will not be removed by logic.” (In other words, don’t waste your time arguing with the irrational).

Mike Kjergaard–“People who come to your church disgruntled will most likely leave your church disgruntled.”

Spencer Hudon: “The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese!”

Keely Tidwell Evans: If everyone jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?

Dave Jones: You cannot choose how people treat you, but you can choose how you respond.

Stephen Corp: Win if you can, lose if you must, but always cheat. (I’m a patriots fan.)

Stephen Corp: Arron – on a more serious note: “Little details make big differences” is something I’ve been learning more and more. Hope the sermon goes well!!

Nora Mahoney Elkins: A good marriage isn’t something you find its something you make.

Andy Woods: Dad always said, “A man who says he understands women will lie about other things too.”

Rita Montgomery: My mom always no matter how bad things get,laugh.

Dawn Schwartz: It is what it is.

Eddie Tison: “Don’t pass up a good deal just because you couldn’t get a better one. ” (from my dad)

Beverly Jackson: My dad says…if it hurts don’t do it

Maronna Mathews: If you don’t think with your head, you’ll think with your feet.

Scotty Newsom: My Grandfather used to say “son you can’t teach an old new tricks but you know you can’t teach a dead dog nothing” He said that everyday you were alive that you could learn something if you try.

Bo Temples: My Grandpa shared many wise things with me. One I’ll always remember is; “Never trust a skinny chef for a good meal.”

Suzanne Page: My dad told me in relation to boys, :why would he buy the cow when they can get the milk free?” LOL!! (I’m sure that’s not quite what you had in mind, tho.)

ChunkyDee Wayne: Choose happiness! You may not feel like it, but you can choose joy.

Greg Marksberry: Don’t borrow trouble.

Eddie Tison: One more from my dad: “To make a lot of money, you have to either HAVE a lot of money, work really hard, or take a lot of risk. If anyone tries to sell you on a way to make a lot of money that doesn’t require at least one of these three run, don’t walk, in the other direction. ”

Andres Augustine Benavides: If you wait until you can do everything for everybody, instead of something for somebody, you’ll end up not doing nothing for nobody

Joe Harvey: “If you can only love God when he meets your expectations, you’re really just using God to love yourself.” -lessons I learned during tough times

Hoss Ridgeway: Never buy a car in the dark, in the rain or in a hurry.

Kaylee Dunham Kesterson: Live one day at a time.
Don’t half way do two things; whole way do one thing.
Refusing to forgive someone is like swallowing poison and expecting it to kill them.

Korina Glover: He told me “make home promise you a rose garden”.

Beverly Orris: Dad said ” Help as many, hurt as few” and you would be all right ..”Love is all that matters love is all that lasts” is mine

Sharon Watt Freeman: I once heard a wise man once say…”I’m not in the business of raising jerks”!

Robert Andrew David Evans: Being extremely hyper-active my mom would say, “Think before you speak.” Or “Think about something before you go all-in” Or “Know everyone, that way when you are in a bad area or get into trouble you know where to go for help or protection.” Or “Learn …See More

Wendy Root: a little bird never flies so far that his/her tail feathers don’t follow~ my grandma

Robert Andrew David Evans: “Do things right the first time.” <that one got me more times than not. One dirty dish after washing them and I would end up washing everything in the cabinet. Taught me integrity and honesty and the value of hard work.

Ted Janie Adkins: Never say or do anything outside the church that you wouldn’t say or do inside the church and you’ll make a lot less mistakes.

Darla Dunn Moxon: All that is gold does not glitter. (Tolkien gets the credit for turning this saying around.)

Cecily Moen Badding: Children are to be seen, not heard. Still makes me sad.

Adam Granger: My one Grandpa used to say “it’s not what you know it’s who you know”

Aaron Gossage: “There’s more than one way to skin a cat.” – my dad

Steve Malone: You don’t just have to go through it, you can grow through it.

Anisha Gutierrez: Never say something behind someone’s back, if you wouldn’t say it to their face. Also, laugh….a Lot! It truley is good medicine!

Dan Garrett: My friends used to say: don’t hang out with that guy Arron Chambers. (Thanks, Dan! Funny thing is, my friends used to say don’t hang out with you!)

Ben Brunswick: You’ll never know what it feels like to fly if you never take the jump

Hal Hoggard: I stand with Anisha Gutierrez and might add to have wisdom is to be a wise soul ( SPIRIT )

Renee Keen Young: My dad would say, “Treat your family like royalty, and everyone else like family.”

Isaiah Magana: “Leave it better than you found it.”

Charlie Crowe: “Remember who you are!”

Bo Temples: Grandpa also told me; “the best way to kill time is to work it to death.”

Laura Sweigard: When you spend all your time pullin at the weeds your wildflowers will never be able to grow. – G ma

David Arnold: The grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence , just a different color.

Judy Wood Dalrymple: Keep your eye on the goal.

Joe Alexander: It’s easier to make nice people smart than it is to make smart people nice.

Darren Griffin: Anything worth doing is worth doing right.

Laura Sweigard: Think smarter not harder

Melissa Kelly Colgate: Less said…. Less mended

Neil Rohe: Proper preparation prevents piss poor performance

Vicki Steiner: My mom used to say “they have the same clothes to get glad in”. Most of my dad’s are not repeatable, but they were very memorable! One I used for me kids: for every choice you make there’s a price you pay, so make good choices”.

Anne Klinger Maxey: “God made dirt. Dirt don’t hurt.”

Pete Vincelli: Close the fridge, are you trying to refrigerate the whole neighborhood!

De Anna Hundley: “God willing, and the devil don’t take me tomorrow!” (My grandmother’s favorite mantra)

Tracey Diaz Lawrence: The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Prov 1. (Really all of Proverbs is the best medicine for living beyond conventional wisdom)

Dan Douglass: When my Grandpa found out I was going to be a preacher he said: “Keep it short and remember people’s names”. I’ve been able to remember names😀

Polly McKay: things will be better in the morning.

Courtney Flood: My grandma would always tell us to arrive early anywhere we needed to be. It was a sign of respectfulness.

Holly Stimson: My dad always quoted Churchill to me whenever I fell off my bike one too many times and felt like quitting: “never, never, never give up!”

David W Hamilton: They don’t care what you know, till they know that you care. And, success is not what you achieve or accumulate, it’s what you leave behind.

Kimberly Boren Martin: My dad, when I would ask him how I look after getting all dressed up….”it’s not the dress that makes the girl, it’s the girl that makes the dress!” So true! It’s not the clothes we wear…it’s what’s inside! Oh another I heard in high school that I teach my children especially when they don’t win or make the “A” team or whatever….”It’s better to deserve the prize and not win it, than to win the prize and not deserve it.” This one has stuck with me for years. As a parent I use the “losing” moments as the best “teachable” moments!

Amanda Zema: Keep your nose clean. Don’t take any wooden nickels! Be good.

Shannon Tetiva: Keep your nose clean. My dad always told me that.

Judy Parsons Fitzpatrick: My Dad was a banker. He always told me to balance my checkbook and save my money!

Jennifer Belter: To get to the peak, you have to travel the valleys first

Jeff Greene: One good turn, gets most of the blanket!

Mark Wheeler: “You can’t control how others respond/react, you can only control how you respond/react.” A great piece of advice for me over the years. “A bad day fishing is still better than a good day at work.” LOL!!

Carrie Elizabeth Anderson: Beauty is as beauty does!

Scott Smith: Keep walkin’

Christy Green:My Father used to say ” If a bullfrog had wings he wouldn’t bump his ass on the ground”. I never did understand that one. He had a million of them.

James Cook: For want of the nail the shoe was lost. For want of a shoe the horse was lost. For want of a horse the message was never delivered. For want of the message the war was lost.

Jess White:If an apple a day helps keep the doctor away then couldn’t we stop eating apples and have doctors make house calls again?

Susanne Clark Bjork: “I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. What I can do, I should do and, with the help of God, I will do.” Everett Hale, Chaplain of the US Senate and grandnephew of Nathan Hale, Revolutionary War patriot who was executed by the British after he stated “I only regret that I have but one life to lose for my country.”

Marjorie Cobb: any day above ground is a good day

Lisa Rose Wright: “Do things the easy way, unless the easy way is the wrong way, then, do things the right way.”

Xenia Staves: My mom used to tell us to make sure we had clean underwear on in case we were in a car accident or something

Alisa Mock Franz: “Take good care of each other.” Grandpa

Jamie Smith Askvig: My Dad used to say “Look people in the eyes when you talk to them” and also “Nobody owes you anything in this life”.

Jessie Mae Hendrickson: “When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time” Maya Angelo

Jackie Prosise Holliday: “Love is a decision”. And “real faith will move real mountains. ”

David Roberts: Nanny Roberts used to say, “Never wrestle with a pig, you both get dirty and the pig likes it.”

Angela Horton: Well, you know what my old daddy use to say…a fool with his money soon parted.

Matt Zeller: People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care wink emoticon

Karah Long: Tough times never last tough people do

Geoff Rogers: “Let them that didn’t want any… Have memories of gettin’ none.”

Katie Babbino: A couple of good ones from my mom: “Do what you know is right,” and “Make a decision and live with it.”

Ruth Spellins Phipps: My Grandmother would say: “If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.” But my favorite was after she would belch she would say “Well that ole dead cow wasn’t finished talkin’. ”

Matthew Elam: A man’s word is his bond. A hand shake is as good as a contract.

Mark A. Taylor: “Quit crying or I’ll give you something to cry for!”

PeteNheather Ramsey: Uncle Steve – “You can pick your nose and you can pick your friends, but you can’t wipe your friends under the couch.”
Great Grandpa – “Don’t worry about missing my funeral. I won’t be there either.”
Heather – “You have to choose to be offended. So don’t.”…See More
Scott Falconer: Just had the conversation last week when I was asked “what does that do for us?” It’s not about us! And I know that usually is said into the talks of “its about Jesus”, but it is also more than that. One action or good deed towards another can have huge and ongoing effects towards that person and others. I guess its “Pay it forward” thinking.

Lacie Dalrymple: “It is none of your business what other people say about you.”

Justin Dalrymple: Dont take work home and don’t take home to work.

Ross Runnels: Remember son, when your trying to keep the alligators off you a&@, the objective was to drain the swamp.

Ryan Bailey: My grandmother used to say, “Always give people the benefit of the doubt. You never know what they may be going through.”

Ross Runnels: It’s hard to soar like an eagle when your flying with turkeys.

Stephany Jenkins: If you don’t use your brain you’ll have to use your back….and…
Cut once but measure twice.

Amy Woodrum: Don’t sweat the petty things, and don’t pet the sweaty things

Susan Duttweiler Campbell: Sometimes you have to just roll with the punches

Paul Chambers: My brother Roger would say that if you treat your children like little ladies and gentlemen that they would grow use to it and learn to settle for nothing less. His children turned out alright.

Bethany Jett: It is what it is.

Mark Edward Clark: “T.A.N.S.T.A.A.F.L. There ain’t no such thing as a free lunch.” Every thing has a price…in time, talent, treasure, or trust.

Kacey Joy Vande Steeg: Not my grandpa but my dad says this all the time… “You can’t fix stupid” or “I don’t have to do anything you say, I just have to die and pay taxes” … Solid things to live by!

Mike Herbst: “Use your head for somethin, besides a hat rack”

Philip Claycomb: If you throw a rock into a pack of dogs – the one that howls is the one you hit! (about dealing with critics)
You can’t wrestle with a skunk without smelling like one!

Melody Willert: The child is a whole lot more important then that sink full of dirty dishes.

Steve Horton: Ask yourself if I would do it, if I would, its ok

Philip Edward Koban: If you don’t have anything nice to say about somebody don’t say anything at all!

Trevor Fritzler: Living beyond your means is mortgaging your future!

Steven Gorman: In order to train to fight; you have to fight to train

Chris Ho: This too shall pass.

Allie Schepers: Jump rope while you can, because you won’t be able to do it forever. -my grandmother

Tammy J Davis: If “ifs” and “buts” were candy and nuts we’d all have a wonderful Christmas.

Casey Scott: If at first you don’t succeed, you’re doing it wrong.

Emmalee Shoup: You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar

Susan Duttweiler Campbell: One more for you that grandmother used to say…Visitors and Fish, both start to stink after 3 days

Clay Terrell: Related to Casey’s quote: If at first you don’t succeed, keep on sucking till you do suck seed!

Wesley Williams: Do your work right the first time. If you don’t have the time to do it right the first time when will you find the time to come back and do it the right way.

Jim Stafford: There ain’t no education in the second kick of a mule.

Pete Wurdemann: If at first you don’t succeed, do it like your mother told you.

Kirk Garreans: You’d better try to go now, because you never know when you’ll get the chance to go again! (Mom, before a road trip with my dad driving).
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Betty Nelson Goodart: “As smart as you are and as dumb as I am, I’m as smart as you are as dumb as I am”

Christopher Onnen: It’s not so much of falling out of love as it is falling out of repentance

Sandi Peppard: Reality of life in a fallen world — When you are facing a challenging situation over which you have no control … It is what it is, and it’s okay. God is still God!

Tara Olender: Look up, not around.

Pete Wurdemann: My Grandpa who made award-winning pea soup, had been through the great depression: “If you eat pea soup for breakfast, have pea soup for lunch and be lucky enough to have pea soup for dinner you’re gonna pee soup ALL night long.”

Richard D. Perry: From a dear lady of 85+ years, whom we used to visit on a weekly basis. “Your only as good as your word. If you don’t keep it, no one will take you seriously.” Guess who the comment was aimed at.

Shaun Daly: Hope and fear cannot exist in the heart at the same time. Hope wins!

Laura Jones Sampson: “A fresh coat of paint never hurt an old barn,”

Gina Moore Clark: I never promised you a rose garden— roses take work and love and PATIENCE!!!

Marna Tillinghast: We look at the cross from amidst the crowd; Jesus would have us look at the crowd from the cross – Reinhardt Bonke

proactive or reactive, opposite signs. Two opposite signs against blue sky background.

I haven’t blogged in a long time.

I just didn’t have anything I had to say, plus life has been really busy for me since early in the summer…but I know I’m not alone.

Life is really busy right now for most everybody I know. I took some time today to evaluate my daily schedule to make sure that I’m making the most of my time each day. I find myself reacting too much. I want to be more proactive. Here’s a brief analysis of the differences between proactive and reactive behavior. I picked this up at a seminar a couple of years ago. I’ve added a few points.


Proactive Behavior                                        Reactive Behavior  
Goes the extra mile                                         Does the minimum
Exceeds expectations                                     Meets expectations
Takes calculated risks                                     Risk Adverse
Listens                                                             Talks
Independent thinker                                        Needs to be told
Anticipates problems                                      Solves problems
Seeks new solutions                                       Relies on status quo
Questions/Challenges                                     Assumes
Multi-functioning thinking                               Focuses only on “my job”
Goals                                                              To-do lists
Takes Breaks                                                  Breaks Down
Owns Life                                                       Owned by Life
“Want to.”                                                      “Have to.”
Value Planning (i.e. Plans around Values)      Doesn’t Value Planning

©2015 Arron Chambers

The Ten Commandments

August 16, 2015 — Leave a comment


These are the notes from my message last week at Journey Christian Church. There was interest so I promised to post them here. I’d also like to note that much of my research involved the notes from the class I took on The Law of Moses with Dr. James Smith while I was a student at Florida Christian College.

The Law of Moses

Colorado has some interesting laws on the books.
Statewide: It is illegal to ride a horse while under the influence.
Alamosa–Throwing missiles at cars is illegal.
Arvada–Establishments which sell alcohol must have enough lighting to read text inside them.
Aspen–Catapults may not be fired at buildings.
Boulder–It is illegal to permit ones llama to graze on city property.
Boulders may not be rolled on city property.
Couches may not be placed on outside porches.
Colorado Springs–It is permissible to wear a holstered six-gun within city limits, except on Sunday, Election Day, or holidays
Cripple Creek–It is illegal to bring your horse or pack mule above the ground floor of any building.
Denver–It is unlawful to lend your vacuum cleaner to your next-door neighbor.
It is illegal to mistreat rats in Denver, Colorado.
Durango–It is illegal to go in public dressed in clothes “unbecoming” on one’s sex.
Sterling–Cats may not run loose without having been fit with a tail light. I think this one should read, Cats may not run loose except when they are being chased by a vehicle with tail lights.
Vail–It is illegal to crash into obstacles on a ski slope.

Some of these laws seem silly and outdated don’t they?

Maybe that’s how you feel about the 10 commandments God gave to Moses on Mt. Sinai?

This week, week five of The Story, we’re going to read about some laws that too many people feel are silly and outdated.

Jesus says,

Matthew 5:17-19
“Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. I tell you the truth, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. Anyone who breaks one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven.”

Here’s the bottom line I want us to consider as I start this message: If Jesus thinks that the 10 commands are that important, then I do too.

Why are the 10 Commandments important? Like a compass, they point us to righteousness.

What is righteousness? You ask.

This is a true story according to a recent issue of Road and Track Magazine:

Righteousness is not ingesting the sinful junk of this world into our souls.

What is righteousness? Living like Jesus.

How can we live like Jesus? Follow the 10 commandments as a model for holiness.

So, let’s look at each of the ten commandments.

Exodus 20
And God spoke all these words:
2 “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.
3 “You shall have no other gods before me.

The first commandment is foundational to biblical faith for a few reasons.
1) It’s the foundation of theology. God is supreme. He has no competitors.
2) It’s the foundation of morality. Biblical morality is conformity to the character and will of God.
3) It’s the foundation of authority.
4) It’s the foundation of law. There is only one source of right and wrong and it’s Yahweh.

Like us, the Israelites lived in a world that was full of many false gods.

In their day the “other gods” fell into 3 broad categories: 1) Animal deities (Egypt); 2) Astral deities (Mesopotamia); 3) and Natural deities (Canaan).

This first command prohibited the Israelites from having other gods “before me” or lit. “over against my face.”

4 “You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. 5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, 6 but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.

An idol is anything that takes God’s place.

St. Augustine’s definition of idolatry was right on—

Idolatry is worshipping anything that ought to be used, or using anything that is meant to be worshipped.

Don’t forget: the Children of Israel had been slaves in Egypt for 400 years. Every decision had been made for them (essentially) for generations. In his book, The Sinai Summit, Rick Atchley points out that God gave them the Law—not to enslave them again, but to teach them how to live freely.

7 “You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.

There are some names that are special to me?
Tibbs, Norma, Herschel, Hazel—my grandparents’ names
Leigh-Angela, Leslie, Adam—my siblings’ names
Rhonda, Ashton, Levi, Sylas, Payton—my family’s names.
Linda—my Mom’s name
Roger—my Father’s name

It would be upsetting for you to abuse my Father’s name.

My heavenly Father’s name means more to me than anything.
The abuse of God’s name grieves God.

In Isaiah, He lists the evils of the day and says,

“And all day long my name is constantly blasphemed.” Isaiah 52:5

What are the wrong uses of God’s name?
1. As a Curse Word
2. As an Exclamation Point
3. As a Cliché
4. As a Weapon
5. As an Endorsement

What are the proper uses of God’s name?
1. In worship
2. In study and theological discussions
3. In judicial oaths
4. In vows and covenants
5. In blessings

8 “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. 9 Six days you shall labor and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns. 11 For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.

What was the Sabbath? Recognition that one day a week belongs to God. (1)Rest for humans, servants, animals, land, everything
(2)Remember what God has done (Deut. 5:15)—Out of bondage

Why is the Sabbath important? 1) Rest is just as important as work. Man like God is to work and rest. 2) God gave humans a great gift by endorsing a day of rest without guilt A day of delight and joy! 3) Testifies to confidence in God’s work—trust in God to provide. 4) Families brought together for worship 5) Token of submission to God. 6)One of the signs of the covenant

Jewish Scholar wrote: “the Biblical Sabbath was a literal “day of delight” not an onerous burden. Every Sabbath each Jew experienced a marvelous transformation. Six, long days of toil, terror, and persecution in the world, but one day each week with his bride, the Sabbath!”

What do we learn in the New Testament about the Sabbath?
(1)“Sabbath made for man, not man for the Sabbath” (Mk. 2:27). Jesus saved lives, healed the sick, satisfied hunger, satisfied thirst, rescued animals on the Sabbath.

(2) Paul said the Sabbath was a shadow of things to come (Col. 2:16,17)

(3) There remains a Sabbath rest—a rest in God here on Earth and a rest for eternity with God in Heaven.–Hebrews 4:9-11

Hebrews 4:9-11
There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his. Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest, so that no one will perish by following their example of disobedience.

In looking at the life of Jesus and the example of the early church, they didn’t keep the Sabbath, but began worshipping on Sunday—the day of Christ’s resurrection.

We don’t keep the Sabbath anymore, but we better rest in the Lord and in our lives.

12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

Exodus 20:12–Why does God want us to honor our parents?

  1. The Law required respect for the source of Life.
  2. The Law required reverence for what our parents have past down—life, wisdom, experience, heritage.

How do we honor our parents?

  1. Obedience
  2. Fearing/Respecting
  3. Support Materially

Dishonoring parents is…

  1. Form of self-hate
  2. Linked to the most despicable acts
  3. Punished in the same way as dishonoring God—Why? Dishonoring parents is an attack of God’s fundamental structure for order in society.

13 “You shall not murder.
“Number 6 don’t get your kicks from killing one another.”

Ex. 20:16 –The term “ratsach”: killing a personal enemy

Not used of :(1) Killing beasts for food–Gen.9:3; (2) Defending one’s home–Exod. 22:2; (3) Accidental killings–Deut. 19:5; (4) Execution of criminals–Gen.9:6; (5) Involvement in wars

Does apply to (1) Killing for revenge–Num. 35:27,30; (2) Assassination–2 Kings 6:32; (3) Manslaughter–Num. 35:16; Deut. 4:41-43; (4) Self-murder; (5) Accessories to murder–2 Sam. 12:9

The Dimensions of the 6th Commandment:
The Social Dimension– (a) Live at peace with men; (b) aid the weak; (c) resist the ruthless; (d) affirm life and battle death; (e) medicine and healing are a positive, social affirmation of the sixth command. “If men do not seek to prevent injury, assault, or murder, they are themselves in part guilty of the offense committed.”

The Religious Dimension–God alone gives life. He alone has the right to take it away. He who takes it away without God’s authority is a murderer.
The Personal Dimension–We are not to commit suicide, or do anything which reflects disrespect for our bodies. God created man in his image and pronounced creation good. Man is not to disfigure the divine likeness. The external appearance of people should reflect their internal status as chosen people. “Therefore, glorify God in your body.” I Cor. 6:20.

Sanctity of Life: The 6th Command teaches us that life belongs to God.
The recent revelations about Planned Parenthood selling baby parts is not a surprise to any informed person.

Why are children aborted? The Alan Guttmacher Institute (the research arm of Planned Parenthood) states:
1% are victims of incest or rape
1% had fetal abnormalities
4% had a doctor who said their health would worsen if they continued the pregnancy
50% said they didn’t want to be a single parent or they had problems in current relationships
66% stated they could not afford a child
75% said the child would interfere with their lives.

14 “You shall not commit adultery.

Adultery—Sexual relations between a married person and another.

Primary meaning of this term in the Bible is “to break covenant”

According to a new study by Tom W. Smith of the National Opinion Research Center, roughly 15 percent of married or previously married Americans have committed adultery.

Adultery of non-sexual type: (1) Looking lustfully—Mt. 5:28; (2) Adulterous generation—Mt. 12:39; Mt. 16:4; James 4:4

Evils of Adultery:
Breaches the marriage covenant which had been made before God
Dishonors God by placing man’s will above God’s—Gen. 2:24
It’s a rebellious act done with deliberation
It’s a theft of the highest sort (stealing a man’s flesh)
It destroys one’s reputation.—Prov. 6:32-33
It’s a sin against God—Gen. 39:9

Penalty in the O.T. for adultery: Death—Lev. 20:10; Deut. 22:22

15 “You shall not steal.

This is one of the commands directly at keeping order in society. When people respect the boundaries society is better.

Do you know of any communities where people don’t have to lock their doors?

Forms of stealing:

  1. Theft.
  2. Illegal downloading off internet.
  3. Plagiarism
  4. Cheating

16 “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.

The picture here is of lying in a legal setting, but the implications are carried over into every day life. We are
(1)To Speak truth—Zec. 8:16
(2) To Be People of Truth
(3) To Walk in Truth—Ps. 86:11; 43:3; 119:30,31

17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”

Covet lit. “to desire earnestly, long after, to set one’s desire on something”

This is not a prohibition of the experience of desire but of that desire which runs rampant over reason and the rights of others.

When are desires wrong?
When the thing desired is bad.
When the desire can only be gratified by sin.

Problems coveting creates in a society:
Unholy desire can lead to idolatry
Unholy desire can lead to disrespect of God and His name
Unholy desire can lead to disrespect of Sabbath
Unholy desire can lead to disrespect of parents.
Unholy desire can lead to murder
Unholy desire can lead to adultery
Unholy desire can lead to theft
Unholy desire can lead to lying

This command is to the 1st Command what a back cover is to the front cover of a book. It exalts pure devotion to the things of God.

Let me go back to something I said at the beginning.

Why are the 10 Commandments important? Like a compass, they point us to righteousness.

In His sermon on the mountain, Jesus said this:

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33)

How can we do this?
1) Evaluate the “righteousness” of our environment.
2) Eliminate everything that is unrighteous.
3) Evacuate from places, habits, and patterns that lead us towards unrighteousness.
4) Elevate our lives by striving to follow Christ in everything.

A businessman well-known for his ruthlessness once announced to writer Mark Twain, “Before I die I mean to make a pilgrimage to the Holy Land. I will climb Mount Sinai and read the 10 Commandments aloud at the top.” “I have a better idea,” replied Twain. “You could stay in Boston and keep them.” (Moody Bible Institute’s Today in the Word, September, 1991, p. 32.)

This week, as we study about the 10 Commandments. Let’s remember their importance…Not because we are bound by them or because I want you to make a pilgrimage to the Holy Land, climb Mount Sinai, and read them aloud at the top.

No. As we study about the 10 Commandments, let remember the importance of staying in Greeley and keeping them.


Hey, here’s the song I sang at the beginning of the sermon. You’re welcome! 🙂


1. “I’m babysitting my kids tonight.”

When they are your kids, it’s not called “babysitting,” it’s called “parenting.” I mean no offense to all of the young ladies who take their jobs very seriously and who also enable couples like me and Rhonda to have important date nights without the kids. But, just keeping it real here, the job of “babysitting” is ordinarily a part-time job young girls do to raise money they can use to have fun. “Parenting” though, is an extraordinary full-time job adults do to raise children God can use to make a difference. Changing one word in this statement communicates to your buddies and your wife that you refuse to be ordinary and that you see the importance of your full-time job as a parent: “I’m parenting my kids tonight.”

2. “Don’t talk to your mother like that.”

What about tweaking that reprimand into something that also more communicates that you and your wife are a united team? “Don’t talk to my wife like that.” When my Dad said this to me, I knew I had crossed an important line that should never be crossed. The relationship between a father and a mother is the primary relationship in the home. All of the other relationships in our homes will thrive when our marriages are strong and when our kids understand that our love for each other is anything but ordinary.

3. “I have to go home.”

This is an ordinary way to announce to your coworkers or friends that you “have to” go home. What if we tweaked it so as to communicate that we “get to” go home? “I get to go home.” One is ordinary and communicates more of a tone of obligation; the other is more extraordinary and communicates that we view it a privilege to be with our wife and kids.

4. “No, I’ll play with you later.”

Wise parents told me and Rhonda to enjoy every moment with our kids because “it flies by.” They spoke truth. It seems like just yesterday that I was holding Ashton in my arms in that hospital room in Abilene, Texas and signing “How sweet it is to be loved by you.” Now, one of my favorite memories is of dancing with her to that song at her wedding. Yes, take it from this now-wiser parent: the time we have with our children does fly by, so don’t be ordinary and say, “I’ll play with you later”; be extraordinary and say, “Yes, I’ll play with you now.”

Dancing with my daughter Ashton at her wedding

Dancing with my daughter Ashton at her wedding last year.

5. “I’m so disappointed in you.”

Too many adult children in this world carry wounds inflicted, not just by what was said to them, but also by what was NOT said to them. Too many of you have wounds caused, not just by too many hurtful words, but also by too few helpful words. You grew up knowing that your Dad was disappointed in you, but not knowing he was proud of you. Fathers, this is not about creating arrogant narcissists who grow up believing they are God’s gift to this world. Not at all! This is me challenging you to seek out opportunities to speak words into your children’s souls that will empower them with the confidence and security found in knowing that you are so proud to be their father, that you love them, and that you wouldn’t trade them for all of the other children in the world. Be an extraordinary father and say, “I’m so proud of you.” 

©2015 Arron Chambers