My daughter is getting married this Saturday to a fantastic young man, CJ Jenkins.
When he asked me for her hand in marriage, this was my response.
Today you’re asking me for something that is not mine to give.
Ashton has always belonged to God. We raised her to be what He wants her to be and to do what He wants for her to do. His will for her life has ultimately been our only desire for her.
Since her birth, her mother and I have prayed for her with love.
Since her birth, her mother and I have prayed for you–with anticipation of her love for you and your love for her.
We didn’t know your name, yet we prayed for you–knowing that God knew your name and that your name would become our daughter’s name.
Soon you’ll give her what is only yours to give.
Give Ashton your word and find the joy of keeping it.
Express your love through words.
Hold fast to your vows.
Speak truth in love.
Guard your character.
Foster intimacy through conversation.
Speak kindly because you like her.
Share the deepest desires of your heart only with her and with no other woman.
Lead her spiritually with your words.
Be the man Ashton deserves.
Pray for her.
Remember who you are.
Lead her from the cross.
Give Ashton your heart and find the joy of sharing it.
Express your love through actions.
Hold fast to her heart.
Speak love in truth.
Guard her heart.
Foster intimacy through connection.
Be kind because you love her.
Lead her spiritually through your actions.
Be the man Ashton needs.
Pray with her.
Remember who she is.
Love her from the cross.
CJ, you are kind-hearted. You are a hard-worker. You are a good man. You are godly.
Rhonda and I trust you and know that you will take care of Ashton. We also love you and are excited to welcome you into our family.
Today, you’re asking me for something that is not mine to give, so I will simply say, “Care for Ashton on behalf of her true Father.” She belongs to Him. We both love her with everything we have. Love her appropriately.
Today, you’re asking me for something that is not mine to hold on to. We raised her for God and for you, so—with great joy—we release her into your loving care.
Today, I give you my blessing to marry my daughter realizing that—in doing so—we will receive the blessing of gaining you as a son.
Today, I give you my blessing to marry Ashton because that IS mine to give.
©2014 Arron Chambers