It’s no fun to be picked last.
Did you ever have this experience on the playground during elementary school? Some leader in the group decides it’s time to play a game, “Let’s play kickball!” At this point some dark and powerful force takes over and the two most popular boys are chosen to be the most powerful people in the universe (or at least the playground): “Captains.” The rest of us then become like puppies in a pet store trying to look cute so the nice people on the other side of the glass will like us, rescue us from a dark future stuck in the cage of unpopularity, and take us home to live happily ever after.
As the captains choose their teams, those to be chosen fold their arms, look down, shuffle their feet, with hopes that their name will be called sooner rather than later. One by one the all-powerful captains decide the destiny and value of each member of the group.
“I’ll take Billy.”
“Give me Tyler.”
As the teams grow larger the group of “unchosens” grows smaller and feels more conspicuous as they wonder when, or if, they will be selected.
A young boy has four great fears on the playground:
1) Getting beat up by the school bully.
2) Getting picked after a girl.
3) Getting beat up by a girl on the playground.
But the greatest of all playground fears is:
4) Getting picked last.
“I guess I’ll take Arron.”
It’s no fun to get picked last. I don’t think we like to get picked last because we think it means something, or everything. We think that it means that there is something wrong with us, or it may make us think that there is something wrong with the “Captain” who thinks that we are only one step better than no one. We think it means that we are flawed. We think it means that our peers see us as not valuable. We may even think that it means we aren’t wanted.
Take heart. No matter how many times you’ve been picked last by the people around you, you must remember always that you were picked first by the one who made you and the only one with an opinion that matters.
Paul tells us that, before we were even born, God chose us. To the Ephesians Paul wrote, “For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight” (Ephesians 1:4).
©2013 Arron Chambers