A Porn-Again Christian: Part 2

March 19, 2009 — Leave a comment

A Porn-Again Christian—Part 2

Disclaimer: Please do not start reading the eBook I’m recommending until you’ve read all three posts in this series, because this eBook is not for everyone.

Warning:  This post deals with issues of a sexual nature and is intended for a mature audience.

Interestingly, when we Christian pastors need to be teaching more clearly, directly, and truthfully about issues like pornography, masturbation, and sexual immorality, too many of us are choosing to be silent.

Driscoll outlines four reasons why he thinks the church committing, what he calls, a sin of omission.

First, there is a propensity in many churches to take sexuality out of the hands of theologians and place it in the hands of secular counselors, whose philosophy is dominated by unbiblical evolutionary concepts of humanity and gender. This error prevents the church from speaking about men and women because they’re only permitted to see androgynous humanity. Second, the effeminate nature of pastors and churches causes many masculine men to feel unwelcome in what they perceive as an organization solely for women, children, and weaker men. Third, there is a timidity among weak pastors to wade into controversial issues in general, and sexual ones in particular. Lastly, the sad truth is that many pastors are also enslaved to their own sexual sins and/or are languishing in unfulfilling and infrequent sex with their wives, and therefore are unable to speak of sexual matters out of a sense of disqualification.

I respect Mark Driscoll for his devotion to the authority of God’s word.  This eBook is packed with scripture, which he uses carefully and powerfully to speak authoritatively on these controversial topics.  As I read this book, I found myself continually saying to myself, “Thank you Lord for using Mark Driscoll to share this important information.”

I don’t have time—or space—to detail the points that I found most impactful, so I’ll just give you two.

  1.  Lust—In the chapter, “a theology of pornographic lust,” Driscoll details that lust is not sinful . . . (don’t shoot me-I’m not done, yet!) when it’s directed only at your bride.  He writes, “The purpose of pornography is clearly lust. And, lust for anyone but your wife is condemned by God as a grievous evil repeatedly throughout both the Old and New Testament (e.g., Prov. 6:25; Job 31:1; Matt. 5:28; Col. 3:5; 1 Thess. 4:5; 1 Pet. 4:3). The act of lusting after the unclothed body of a woman is not a sin. The issue is which woman’s unclothed body you are lusting after. If she is your bride, then you are simply making the Song of Songs sing again to God’s glory and your joy. If she is not your bride, then you are simply sinning.”
  2. Masturbation–The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior and Sex in America indicates that masturbation is frequent, as the following results show:
  •  Single men who admit to masturbating once a week or more – 48%
  • Married men who admit to masturbating once a week or more – 44%
  • Divorced men who admit to masturbating once a week or more – 68%

Driscoll says there are five questions Christian men must ask themselves as they are considering this issue:

Question #1 –Can you masturbate without lusting (Job 31:1)?

Question #2 – Can you masturbate in a way that builds oneness with your spouse, pulling you together more intimately through the act (Gen. 2:24)?

Question #3 – Can you masturbate without experiencing shame (Gen. 2:24)?

Question #4 – Can you masturbate with a clear conscience (Titus 1:15)?

Question #5 – Can you masturbate without capitulating to the cravings of your sinful desires and thoughts (Eph. 2:3)?

 

After giving practical and theological reasons to not masturbate, he details practical and theological reasons to masturbate.  I found this to be one of the most interesting, and thought-provoking, sections of the book.

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